Some things stayed the same: I still identify as pansexual, although now I sometimes say bi and use the bi flag, because truthfully the lines between the two identities are very blurred and at times non existent: a lot of bi folks are attracted to people of more than one gender (not necessarily two, and not necessarily men and women), so it’s a label that does apply to me.
I have gained much more confidence in my queerness, which I initially thought to be hindered by my straight-passing relationship and my stereotypically feminine style, but really, was held back by a society-induced internalised bi/panphobia.
Sexual attraction is not something that every human experiences, and people can have perfectly happy lives AND romantic relationships without it. Today I will be talking about what asexuality is, and all the mistakes I made when I found myself dating an asexual partner, in the hope you can avoid them.
Moral of the story, although my apparent adherence to heterosexuality has been providing me with extreme privilege my entire life (which I do not take for granted), it has also been damaging my relationship with my own sexual identity. I still feel guilty calling myself queer, as if that meant watering down the LGBTQIA community, or as if by doing so I was taking up someone else’s space, someone who is more worthy of the rainbow flag and that has struggled because of it.
Intersex the only letter within the LGBTQIA acronym that refers to someone’ssex identity (or biological sex, which means someone’s sex traits and reproductive anatomy), and not to someone’s gender identity (the gender we identify with), nor to their sexuality (who we are attracted to).
You can read it in my bio and you can see it in my contents: I define myself as an intersectional feminist in progress. But what do I mean? Let's break it down.
Transgender is a term that defines a person’s gender identity. The word itself is relatively new, and its meaning is still changing and adapting, but humans that transgressed the socially accepted truths about gender and biology have always existed across time and cultures.
Today I thought to present to you some of the most prominent theories about gender, to help you see gender through different lenses and maybe develop a better understanding of what you feel and think gender is. So here we go!
Today we will talk about the Man Box. Sociologist Paul Carvel theorised it to represent theways thatmenare expected to conform to a rigid set of behavioral and physical expectations.
Today I will analyse the rigid set of behavioral and physical expectations that men and women are expected to conform to. We are going to start from women, following an approach similar to that of Paul Carvel (in the Man Box theorisation, about which we will talk next week).
There are many assumptions we make about people. May it be a stranger on the subway, our own child, or a friend, there is a representation of what is “normal” that we have been taught and that we use (willingly or not) to read the world around us.
Welcome to the first of a series of blogs dealing withGender and Sexuality! I see a lot of confusion surrounding terms, definitions and identities and I feel it’s as great a time as any other to try and navigate together the awesome world that isqueerness!
I will be keeping it simple and easy for this first blog, starting with the definitions of what we will be talking about in the next few weeks.
